Self love journal prompts can support your journaling practice by offering you specific themes to focus on that encourage self love. Sitting down in front of a blank page can be intimidating! That's where journal prompts can help. These prompts are specifically designed to kick start the reflection process. I hope they serve as a reminder that you are worth celebrating.
- The Benefits of Self Love Journaling
- Journal Prompts For Forgiveness
- Journal Prompts For Setting Boundaries
- Journal Prompts For Confidence
- Journal Prompts For Self Worth
- Journal Prompts For Healing
- Journal Prompts For Self Growth
- Journal Prompts For Self Discovery
- Journal Prompts For Gratitude
- 5 Beautiful Journals For Your Self Love Practice
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We all know how important it is to be kind to others, but too often we forget to be kind to ourselves. Setting aside time to focus on cultivating self love will pay off in increased self esteem, better mental health and improved relationships.
The Benefits of Self Love Journaling
Self love journaling can transform your life and relationships. The powerful and engaging prompts you'll find below will help you uncover obstacles that negatively impact your self esteem, and reframe them to live a healthier and happier life.
Reflecting on your thoughts, behaviors and feelings can help you deconstruct your story and understand how your mindset has shaped the person you are today. Understanding the narrative you've written for your life can help challenge unhealthy beliefs and cultivate more compassion for yourself. Self love journaling is, at the end of the day, a powerful tool to help you thrive and flourish in a life that you love.
I've broken these journal prompts into categories that all have an impact on your ability to love yourself fully. You can choose to work with one category at a time, or skip around to the prompts that feel right for you. There's no right or wrong way to journal.
I've made suggestions of things to write about next to each self love journal prompt. You don't have to accept these suggestions; they're merely there as examples to prompt your own exploration.
I've also included my favorite resources to help you on your self love journey. I hope you enjoy them as much as I have.
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.Buddha
Journal Prompts For Forgiveness
Holding on to anger and harboring resentments can have a detrimental impact on your quality of life. Continually recalling negative events and ruminating on them can destroy your peace of mind and even have a negative impact on your health.
Forgiveness is not about condoning someone else's actions. It's about letting go so that you can live a happier life, free from bitterness and old grudges. If you're working on forgiveness, you might benefit from shadow work prompts as well.
- Who is one person you need to forgive? When someone has wronged you, it's easy to get caught up in ruminating on all the negative things they've done. Sometimes that person is a significant person in our lives, like a parent or sibling. Sometimes it's a friend or significant other. Think of one person you harbor resentments towards and explore how forgiving that person could build more self love.
- What are the benefits of forgiveness? Explore themes that have a positive impact on your life. For instance, forgiveness decreases anxiety, reduces depression and frees up mental space for more productive activities. What benefits could forgiveness bring to your life?
- What do you need to forgive yourself for? This is an important one! We've all done things we're not proud of. Is it time to forgive yourself for something you've said or done? After all, we're all human and life is a continuous journey of learning.
- What are some ways you can practice forgiveness today? One suggestion might be to practice meditation. Here's a wonderful forgiveness meditation for you to practice the art of forgiveness. Silently repeating powerful affirmations might help you move towards forgiveness. These are only suggestions. Explore ways of practicing forgiveness that build self love and are meaningful to you.
- What burden have you carried long enough, and how would it feel to put it down? Choose one thing that you struggle with internally. How would it feel if this internal conflict ended? Would you feel more peaceful? Would you be more productive? If you'd like to explore this concept further, I highly recommend the acclaimed best seller Forgive Everyone Everything by Fabian Debora.
...there are often many things we feel we should do that, in fact, we don't really have to do. Getting to the point where we can tell the difference is a major milestone in the simplification process.Elaine St. James, Living the Simple Life: A Guide to Scaling Down and Enjoying More
Journal Prompts For Setting Boundaries
Learning to set healthy boundaries is important if you want to cultivate more self love. Saying "yes" when you really want to say "no" drains your mental energy and leaves you with fewer resources to meet your own goals and aspirations.
- In which ways do I attempt to gain approval by people-pleasing? Don't be too hard on yourself here. We all do it. But when people pleasing becomes a chronic pursuit, you end up exhausted and demoralized. If you struggle with people-pleasing I highly recommend Please Yourself: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live.
- Explore one healthy boundary you can set today. Could you say no to the drinks date you have with that friend who is constantly complaining? Could you not respond instantly to that text? Do it!
- Which phrases help you set positive boundaries with confidence and kindness? Things like, "I'd be happy to help, but I'm overextended at the moment" or "I'll get back to you" are a few examples.
- Which part of my life would benefit from more time and attention? How can I create space for that? Self love is all about honoring and validating yourself. Could you use more time for self care? Would you benefit from a better work life balance? Focus on areas of your life that need a bit more love, and plan ways to make time and space for them.
- How does enforcing healthy boundaries effect my sense of self respect? We respect ourselves more when we're in tune with our needs and we respect them. The truth is, self love is all about self respect.
- How does saying "no" make me feel? Unfortunately, we live in a culture that has negatively stigmatized saying "no." Saying no can bring up unpleasant feelings of guilt that stem from our desire to gain approval from others at our own expense. Explore those feelings with compassion.
Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.M Scott Peck
Journal Prompts For Confidence
Confidence is the ability to live through whatever lie throws at you, and to keep loving yourself in the process. These self love journal prompts explore confidence, how we feel about it, and how to cultivate more of it in our lives.
- Write a letter to your future self. Tell yourself that you're confident you can make it through anything. Send that letter to yourself. Future Me is a website that helps you write a letter to yourself, and it sends it to you on a date of your choosing. Remind yourself that you have the skills and resilience to face anything lie throws at you! You'll be pleasantly surprised when you receive your letter.
- How do I face my fears? Do you retreat and become avoidant? Do you procrastinate? Do you suddenly get tired and need a nap? I highly recommend this article on how to overcome procratination if you struggle with putting things off. We all have our coping mechanisms for facing our fears. For additional help on facing your fears, I highly recommend the life changing classic Feel The Fear, And Do It Anyways by Susan Jeffers.
- Make a list of your best character traits. If you struggle with self confidence, ask a trusted friend to tell you what they love about you the most.
- Make a list of all the empowering things you have achieved in your life. What accomplishments are you most proud of? List them and reflect on how they've changed your life path for the better. Guaranteed to increase your self love.
- Describe a time in your life that you felt truly confident. What was happening at that time? How can you get back to that feeling in the present?
Journal Prompts For Self Worth
Self worth and self love go hand in hand. The more you value yourself, the more love you give yourself. These journal prompts are designed to help you reflect on long held beliefs about your self worth.
- List three limiting beliefs you have about yourself. Get honest with yourself and do a deep dive into your limiting beliefs. Do you believe that you're not worthy of success? Do you feel ashamed of your body? Do you believe that everyone else has it figured out, while you're lost and muddling through? Explore your limiting beliefs. Where did they come from? Understanding is the key to unlocking change. If you need help exploring your self worth, I highly recommend Reclaiming Self-Worth: The Five-Step Method to Releasing Limiting Beliefs and Feeling Worthy.
- Explore one technique you could use to increase your self worth. Would affirmations help? Would meditation help? This is a great guided meditation on self worth you might choose to explore.
- Reflect on two qualities that make you unique. We are all unique in our own way, and sometimes self love is about reminding yourself of your own unique abilities and traits. Are you creative? A great cook? A great parent? A good friend? Do you have a keen analytic mind? Are you empathetic? These are just a few suggestions to get you started.
- Write a love letter to yourself. I know it sounds funny, but it works. Tell yourself all the things you love about being you.
- List three ways that you self sabotage. This one is difficult, but worth it. In which ways do you sabotage your own success? Do you procrastinate? Do you self sabotage with drugs or alcohol? Instead of facing the things that make you feel insecure, do you comfort eat? You might not do these things; these are only suggestions to kick start your own deep dive into you self sabotaging behaviors. Self love journal prompts aren't always easy. Sometimes they require looking at our limiting behaviors so that we can better understand ourselves.
To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.Robert Morley
Journal Prompts For Healing
Healing our inner wounds and addressing our traumas is the hard work we need to do in order to love and accept ourselves fully.
These self love journal prompts will help you recognize, reflect on and work through the difficult things that have happened on your life journey. Once we understand where our needs were denied or unmet, we can develop strategies for meeting them in a healthy way.
- What makes me feel defensive? What triggers me? A trigger is a an emotional flashback. It could be a sight, sound or smell that emotionally charges you in a negative way. It could also be something that happens to you in your everyday life. Are you triggered by abandonment? Do you feel defensive if you attempt to accomplish a goal and it comes out less than perfect? These are just a few suggestions. Explore the things in your life that provoke feelings of stress, anxiety and depression. Where did these feelings come from? If you'd like to explore your trauma triggers in more depth, you might enjoy Healing What's Hidden: Practical Steps to Overcoming Trauma
- What's one way I can make myself feel safe and nurtured today? Could you connect with a close friend, or even spend time with a pet? Are there particular exercises you could do to calm your body's nervous system? Does listening to music relax and calm you? Could you spend some time in nature? What makes one person feel safe, might trigger another person. Explore what makes you feel secure and protected.
- What are 3 things I can control today? Here's a few suggestions: your exercise routine, your diet, your breath, your sleep routine. Explore how taking charge of these things makes you feel.
- What are 3 things I'm grateful for today? Life isn't always perfect, but gratitude is key to healing.
- Write a letter to someone who has hurt you. You don't have to send it. This is an exercise in expressing your feelings. You might find that the act of writing the letter gives you more peace of mind and clarity.
Journal Prompts For Self Growth
Self growth, or personal development, is the process we go through to reach our full potential. Growth can be spiritual, physical or social, and it can involve everything from your career to your wellness routine. You are constantly learning and developing in all areas of your life.
Looking at your life from an unbiased perspective can help you identify areas where you can grow and improve. It can also show you just how far you've come!
- What goals have I accomplished in the past 5 years? Think back to where you were 5 years ago. What dreams and aspirations did you have? Have you met or exceeded them? If not, what small steps could you take in the coming year to meet at least one goal. A goal setting journal such as Self Journal by BestSelf might be a useful tool for mapping out your goals and exploring strategies you could employ to meet them.
- Make a list of your top 10 core values. Examples might include: compassion, integrity, honesty, honor, kindness, loyalty. How can you live more in alignment with your core values? Further help in exploring living in alignment with your core values can be found in this amazing book: Discovering Your Authentic Core Values: A step-by-step guide
- Are my short term actions aligned with my long term goals? Think of at least one long term goal you'd like to achieve within the next 5 years. Are you currently taking steps towards achieving it? If not, can you formulate a plan that involves taking small steps towards your goal?
- Who inspires you? This could be anyone from a celebrity to an entrepreneur to your own mom! What qualities does that person possess that makes them worthy of your admiration?
- List 3 fears. The most helpful thing you can do to overcome your fears is to identify them! Once you've identified 3 fears, list the ways that these fears are preventing you from reaching your goals. If you need a concrete strategy for conquering your fears, you might want to check out The Confidence Gap: A Guide to Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt.
Journal Prompts For Self Discovery
- Describe yourself in 5 words. Then list 5 words you'd like to use to describe yourself. We are all a work in progress. What steps can you take today to move towards the incorporating the characteristics you wish you had. You might enjoy the Habit Roadmap Journal by BestSelf.
- What makes you angry? How do you behave when angry? Notice the distinction between the healthy feeling of anger and how you react. Counter productive reactions might be lashing out, being aggressive, name calling etc. The reaction to the feeling is different to the feeling of anger itself. Spend some time exploring this distinction.
- What's one toxic thing (or person) you need to let go of? Explore your feelings around this behavior or person. Would you feel differently without this toxicity in your life? Would you be more at peace with yourself? More productive?
Journal Prompts For Gratitude
"In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships." (Harvard Medical School). In fact, developing a daily gratitude practice is an important part of loving yourself fully.
- What 3 things am I most grateful for today? It can be anything. It could be as simple as clean sheets to your best friend. Consider investing in a gratitude journal for your daily gratitude practice.
- List 5 things that you do really well. Are you a great writer? A caring friend? Well organized? A good parent? A great cook? Explore 5 things that you do really well.
- What's your favorite childhood memory? Was it a birthday part? A moment that you had at school? An award you won? A sport you played that you really loved? Think of one memory that you treasure, and write about it.
- Who gives you unconditional love? It could be anything from a parent to your pet!
- Name one good decision you've made that has improved your life. Did you cut off a toxic person? Did you go to college? Did you save enough money to buy a home? Did you start your own business? Did you start an empowering exercise program. It can be anything that you committed to that has had a positive impact on your life.
5 Beautiful Journals For Your Self Love Practice
A beautiful journal that's meaningful to you can give you extra motivation to work on your self love journaling prompts. Having a safe place to commit to your self care routine will help you get the most from your journaling practice. Here's a few of my favorite self love journals for inspiration:
- The I am Enough Journal by Danielle N. Alterwisher is a beautiful journal to inspire reflection and gratitude. Each page is blank with a beautiful quote to remind you to love yourself a little bit more.
- This 5 Minute Gratitude Journal helps you integrate gratitude and self love into your life in only 5 minutes a day. Each day has a morning and evening routine, and there's plenty of wise inspirational quotes to accompany your self love journal prompts.
- The 52 Week Guided Mental Health Journal includes powerful prompts to boost your mood, increase your resiliency and find positivity in your everyday life.
- The Self Care: A Day And Night Reflection Journal gives you 90 days of space to reflect on each day. With spaces for you to set your intentions for the day in the morning, and a space to reflect on your day in the evening. There's plenty of prompts in this journal to get your journaling juices flowing.
- The 91-Day Self-Love By Switch Research is a therapist backed plan to practice self-love, gratitude, mindfulness, and change your mindset in just 10 minutes per day. This journal is beautifully presented in a gift box and is packed full of exercises to help you thrive as your best self.
Frequently Asked Questions
Journal prompts are a great way to focus on particular themes that you'd like to work on in your journaling practice. They're designed to shed light on thinking patterns and behaviors that could be holding you back. With regular use, journal prompts can can increase clarity, self understanding, and self love.
1. Free write - free write about everything you can think of that increases your self love. This is called stream of consciousness writing. Write as much or as little as you want, and don't stress about using appropriate grammar and punctuation. This is for you. 2. Use journal prompts. Journal prompts are a great way to stimulate ideas for working with themes such as self love.
Yes, it does. Journaling is a great tool to use to better understand yourself. Once you understand the motivations for the things you do, you can cultivate compassion and self love in an authentic way.